Someone recently posted this meme on IG:
It’s important to do what’s best for you, whether people approve of it or not. This is your life. You know what’s good for you and remember, self-love takes strength.
I read this at the perfect time, because at the time I read it, I was feeling hurt. I was feeling attacked. I was feeling like there was something wrong with me. In fact, I wrote a whole blog talking about it. And by talking, I mean venting and slightly ranting. I had the blog scheduled to post, but after sitting on it for a couple days I decided to let it go.
I feel like letting it go was best for me. Posting it felt like I’d be putting all this negative energy out there, that would always be there. The way I felt was valid, the points I made in the post were valid, but posting it wouldn’t have solved anything. When I unscheduled the post, I felt good. I honestly felt like by not posting it, I was able to move on from the self-doubt I was feeling.
You know, I think about “life” a lot. I think about the type life I want. I think about who I am as a person. I think about what I’m putting in and what I’m getting back. Life is so fragile and can be taken away at any minute and I just can’t be someone I’m not. I refuse to put on a mask and play a version of myself. I’ve done that before, and I aim to not do that again.
I really like who I am. No – I really love who I am. And I won’t let anyone take that away from me.
My sister Kelley said to me:
Don’t let people make you feel like there’s something wrong with you.
First, how supportive is that? I think we all need to take this advice. Words hurt. They really do. When someone makes you feel like – being who you are is wrong. When someone doesn’t take the time to get to know you – yet casts judgement. When someone assumes the worst in you. When someone undermines you. When someone makes you feel like there is something just wrong with you – that hurts. There’s no way around it. Their words. Their actions. It all hurts.
But here’s what I need to do in those times. I need to remind myself about that self-love. I need to remind myself that I do love who I am. I need to remind myself that I love the life I’m living. I need to remind myself that some people in my life took the time to get to know me, and they love me. I need to remind myself that not everyone is going to love who I am, how I act, or agree with the decisions I make. And you know what, that’s perfectly okay because they aren’t living my life. They aren’t with me when I lay down after a hard day. They don’t get to dictate who I am. They don’t get to dictate who you are.
You can’t control how people feel about you, but you can control how you feel about yourself.
Do you love you?
Yes? Then keep doing you!
No? I think its time to change that, don’t you?